Jan 1, 2018
Patrick is a professional
counselor and author of the book Grace and Sexuality. Scott and
Patrick discuss some of the major challenges men face in the realm
belongs in a fireplace. In the right context sex is a great thing
and an awesome gift from God. In the wrong context it has more
potential to harm and to damage than probably anything else.
Read Ephesians 5:1-17.
- Repression model: If you have a desire you have
to shut it down and pretend it’s not there.
is shameful, dirty and bad. So save it for the one you
whatever feels good. Sex is just a physical act between two
consenting adults. Live it up now while you can.
- Sexuality is good and important. God created
sex. God does give us parameters and commands us to flee sexual
immorality but it’s always for our benefit.
all have natural sexual desires, but what are we supposed to do
with these desires? Talk through these different
- Which of these views were you
taught growing up? How has your view changed?
talked about how we often go into “sin management mode,” addressing
symptoms but not actually treating the root causes. Why is that not
the best way to deal with sin?
inherent weakness with men is sharing about our sexual issues. We
try to compartmentalize and privatize them. Have you seen
this tendency in your own life?
have you typically tried to overcome sexual
- Patrick talked about creating an “airtight
plan” for yourself to remove opportunities to look at sexually
explicit content. Discuss with the group what your plan will
you spending your time doing meaningful things (developing
relationships, working out, Bible study, time with family, fishing,
hunting, reading, etc) or mind-numbing things (video games,
scrolling through social media, etc)?
- Patrick reminds us that “The healing doesn’t
start until the last lie is told.” Have you taken ownership of your
sexual issues and stopped lying about them?
you harboring any secrets? It’s very unlikely that you will
experience any success in this area unless you bring it out in the
open. You will experience God’s grace like you never dreamed of. On
the other side of confession is such freedom and relief. All you
need is “10 seconds of courage!”