Acknowledging Your Sexual History with Patrick Holley

Feb 12, 2018

Scott and Patrick talk specifically about the importance of acknowledging your sexual history.

Group Questions:

1. This episode uncovers some deep and hurtful experiences such as sexual abuse, same-sex attraction, and childhood abuse. If you are in a group setting, be aware that this is sensitive for many people to discuss. Reach out to the Southland staff if someone in your group wants or needs to discuss further.
2. In Patrick’s book ‘Grace and Sexuality’ he says, “To be born into the American culture is to be born into trauma”. Do you agree with his thoughts?
3. Why is there so much shame associated with our sexual history? Why do we want to hide and cover up?
4. How early would you say your first sexual experiences occurred?
5. Were you taught about your sexual desires as a child? Who talked to you about how to express them in a healthy way? If not, where did you learn from?
6. There’s a big difference in these two sayings: “Sex is dirty and let’s not talk about it,” and  “God created sex. He created our bodies this way and he created marriage between and man and a woman. What a great God we serve!” Which view resonates with you? Why?
7. Patrick said, “I am what happened to me, but what choices and decisions do I have now to glorify God?” How could that perspective help us move past our sexual histories?
8. Read 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7.
9. How can your sexual struggles help you put your trust in God rather than being a victim?